Tuesday, 12 August 2008
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LOVE REDUCED TO PAPERS AND INK?
I guess almost everybody would agree when I say finding our “right man/woman” is not a piece of cake. We go through a lot of searching and waiting; a sort of “trial and error”; we get hurt along the way before we can finally say and feel we’ve found the “right one”.
When we do, and when we’re already sure about them and about what we feel; we decide to settle down and marry that someone we love…hoping to live “happily ever after” with them.
Growing up in a country where divorce is not allowed; where people only get married once, I guess I will never understand why and how two people in love just sometimes let that love go to waste.
That “LOVE” is often always “reduced” to papers and ink; from PRENUPTIAL AGREEMENTS” to getting/applying for a “MARRIAGE LICENCE” to signing a “MARRIAGE CONTRACT” which would eventually lead to DIVORCE and everything would just be justified to “incompatibility, irreconcilable differences, and irremediable breakdown of the marriage”.
Whew!!! That’s a lot of papers and ink involved. Do you think the option of getting a divorce “encourage” couples to have one once something goes wrong with the marriage? Reminds me of the song “What’s forever for?” here are the lyrics…..
I’ve been lookin’ at people
And how they change with the time
And lately all I’ve been seein’ are people
Throwin’ love away and losin’ their minds
Maybe it’s me who’s gone crazy
But I can’t understand why
All these lovers keep hurting each other
When good love is so hard to come by
So what’s the glory in living?
Doesn’t anybody ever stay together anymore?
And if love never lasts forever
Tell me, what’s forever for
And I see love hungry people
Tryin’ their best to survive
When right their in their hands
Is a dying romance
And they’re not even trying
To keep it alive…
So what’s the glory in living?
Doesn’t anybody ever stay together anymore?
And if love never lasts forever
Tell me, what’s forever for…
So, can anyone tell me what’s “forever” for….
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Comments (8)
yeah i think the option of divorce does allow for a greater chance of divorce. the country i'm from "officially" has divorce, but is given only in extreme circumstances, let's say if the husband was beating his wife. But for small issues, people usually get around those things. I think having the option allows you to just get a divorce for any old reason. If you finally find "the one" how do you divorce them. I don't believe in divorce. My parent's have been through so much with eachother but they never did and they've been married for over 30 years.
Divorce may be allowed in my country, but I won't allow it. I would be insane to let the love I've found with my fiance slip away, for one thing. For another, divorce is simply not an option for either of us. On the other hand, both of us come from homes where our parents didn't get a divorce, and in fact still like each other, even aside from their love. They've shown us how it's done, and raised us not to settle for someone who may not be perfect for us.
So yeah, short of a personality transplant that turns my fiance into a beast, there will be no divorce. Not allowed, not even an option.
I don't understand reducing a marriage to paper and ink, either, personally. But I may be in the minority in my country...
-Katie
i guess divorce won't happen if couples won't let it happen...yeah,it's a possiblity in every marriage, whether we admit it or not...but still it's on the two people involve to make everything work and keep that love alive....am i right?..
@simplyanna - I agree with akatiegirl's idea and your post. It strange to reduce this idea/emotion into something like paper and ink. I think part of the reason is that people give up too easily and they don't want to work at it. A lot of people have lost sight of this. As an extension, in my opinion, to a friendship -- love or being with 'the right one' needs work just as normal friendships need work. This is from both parties.
There are always things that are in the extreme which will take it out of the hands of fixing. As noted in the comment SleepyHead put in. Those extreme circumstances, as unsavory and unfortunate as they are do occur. I would not apply the same note (giving up or being lazy) to these type of relationships that 'does not work out'.
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