Tuesday, 16 September 2008
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Once a Cheater...Will Always Be a Cheater?...
I read this somewhere and I wonder if this is true...or maybe it's a case-to-case basis...depending on the persons involved and the situation...
I posted a pulse before that's somewhat related to this..."WILL YOU TAKE BACK A CHEATING PARTNER?"
I got different kind of reactions to that...As for me,hummmm, I don't even want to think about it...but if I really have to think about my partner cheating on me...well,the scene I've imagined is not really good...I could be murderous...haha...
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Comments (6)
I've found the "once a cheater" thing to be true, but I see cheaters as people who are willing to get all their needs met at any cost. They're not very good at self denial and feel it their right to cheat.
I don't think that's true. I cheated once because I was in a really unhealthy, unhappy relationship (not that there's any excuse for cheating) but I haven't cheated on anyone else I've dated and I don't intend to. People make mistakes. At the same time, though, you should be careful. I don't know if I would take back a cheating partner because the trust would not be there. And I would never be "the other woman" because if he's cheating on someone with me, he'd probably just cheat on me too.
If I was cheated on... I wouldn't be able to cope with myself. Yes, myself, cause I don't think I would be conscious of what might happen to him when I find out or the next time I saw him. So yea.... that's a big no no.Â
Wow, not sure what I would do. Hopefully I'll never have to find out! It would depend on why that person cheated I guess and other behaviors they have. I can say, even if I did take them back I would NEVER trust them completely again. Trust them yes, but never 100%.
@lotta_valdez@xanga - I guess cheaters are also people who can't resist temptations...haha....
Once a cheater, always a cheater is for the most part true, at least
studies of multiple cheaters show that. I believe that it's not true in
all cases and there are a lot of variables.
I do believe however, that putting more study, focus and practice into
WHY a person cheats and tackling those problems would be a better step
in the right direction.