Monday, 22 September 2008
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On Being “One of the Boys”….
I’ve always been “one of the boys” ever since I was a kid…that’s mainly because I have more boy cousins than girls…and I’m closer to my older brother than my sister because my sister was overly jealous of me while growing up... I being the youngest…and the “baby” in the family…I always played and tagged along with my brother and my boy cousins… I’ve learned how to play it rough…I played some basketball with them, earned some scrapes and cuts, got into their fights(I punched a boy who tried to pick a fight with my brother once)…being one of them, I was never afraid of bullies…because I know I have a lot of “defenders”…although “I’m one of the boys”, they would always treat me like a “princess” in the group…I always get what I want…always get my way with them…
During high school, it was all the same… I still tagged along (even though I already have some girl-friends that time) with my brother and his friends…that his friends would do my home works for me especially math problems and some drawing projects… I’d go with them in their basketball games…watched dirt bike racing in nearby towns with them…again; they treated me like a “princess” in the group…I always get what I want…
Came college, I have no one but myself in a strange school so far away from our hometown… I missed my crowd so much…but being from the province, I didn’t make friends easily…I was like an outcast in that big university… but for some unknown reason, boys are always the ones I easily get along with… believe me, it’s not that I’m lesbian or something…haha…here are some of my guy-friends…meet them;
CHARLES: He’s our university band captain and a Taekwondo black belter…
ARIEL: A student assistant and a university scholar
RICKS: A university scholar and a fraternity founder
BENCH: A bass player in a local rock band…and a computer genius…
NIÑO: A varsity basketball player and my Broadcast Journalism partner
MIKE: A campus hottie/heart throb
RONALD: My Philosophy and Ethics instructor…
(Just some of the guys…sad to say, I haven’t hang out with any of them anymore since I got engaged… cut off the communication, for some personal reasons)…
There are some advantages and disadvantages in being one of the guys…here’s a few I know…
Pros:
- You’d be able to differentiate an @$$hole from a real good man
- You’d recognize the @$$hole moves from the @$$hole guys
- You’d learn all the pick-up lines guys use and know how to react to them
- Being one of the guys, you’d be able to read their moves
- You’ll have a lot of “protectors” from bad guys
Cons:
- Your boy-friends may scare off some potentially good guys(happened to me so many times)
- Your boy-friends girlfriends will hate you so much…haha…(this is so true)
- Some people may think you’re a lesbian or a slut(another true one)
- You might become cynical and doubtful about men(I was so cynical and doubtful of men, till I met “mine”)
- (This is the worst :) One of your guy friends may fall for you…or you might fall for them…
As for me, I did fell for one of my guy friend(my one and only ex) back in high school; and he also fell for me…we broke the rule not to fall in love with someone in that circle… and it didn’t turn out good…so better stick to the rules…
Like what they say, there’s always a good and bad side of everything…
Do you agree?...
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Comments (3)
i'm the oldest in my family but i'm also the only girl so i grew up with the boys and me being one of the boys lasted until like middle school then i really only hung out with girls and the last couple of years i've had a group of guy friends at home but not at school. but i was on a mini term in italy this summer and my now boyfriend and i clicked so i ended up hanging out with the boys a lot and i forgot how much fun it is plus they dont have drama that drags on. so now that we're back at school i'm living in my sorority and half living, i feel like, in my boyfriend's fraternity and its funny, guys are just so much easier to deal with. any drama they have is just douchebaggery which is actually entertaining. its really funny because since i'm a girlfriend the guys have no filter around me, if my boy and i just started dating or were hooking up then they'd filter their comments and the more time i spend there the more they realize that they really dont offend me when they say stuff so i hear the most ridiculous stuff. and not gonna lie, i love it.
Ah man while reading this I was nodding my head and agreeing so much. I didn't grow as "one of the boys" however guys were always who I got along with best. All those pros and cons you've listed are so true. I'm laughing especially at the guys girlfriends being jealous, lol so true! But it also stinks when you have to break off those friendships because of your SO. Even if not completely, obviously friendships change in there when you have your own guy in the picture. That's one of the worst. :-/